Not being true to yourself can take many forms. The most commonly reported self-sabotaging behaviours are:
- wanting to please people
- fear of rejection
- inability to commit
- expecting reprisal
If you lump these together and take a look, you will see that they all have one thing in common: fear.
If you then look beneath the fear you will see another common thread: lack of confidence and self-acceptance. When you are afraid to be yourself you masquerade as someone else and typically do a very poor job of it. You are you, and not the person you are pretending, or hoping to be. People can see through your facade so that when it fails, you feel worse than you did before.
The truth you know (but discount) is that you are capable, lovable, and worthy. You knew that about yourself at 5 years old and may have even still known it at 8 or 9, but somewhere along the line you lost your relationship to that confident, uniquely talented true self, and began to feel not worthy and not good enough.
Soon this belief and perspective had invaded and infected your entire life.
The good news is that the more conscious you become of what is behind your lack of self-worthiness and lost confidence, the more you can take the right actions to embrace ‘the authentic you’ before it’s too late.
The following steps will help you get started:
(1) Rediscovering the unique role you are here to play in this lifetime
(2) Regaining your lost relationship to who you truly are and always have been
(3) Renewing your confidence and willingness to take bold action