1. Ensure that it’s Self-Maintained
One of the reasons that people struggle to achieve an outcome is because it’s not self-maintained.
Unless we focus on ourselves, and what we can do, instead of focusing on what we want others’ to do differently, we are likely to end up disappointed.
Self-maintained = you have 100% control of achieving an outcome, because you’re taking full responsibility for achieving it.
Take a look at the following outcomes –
‘I want my line manager to give me more time’. The focus here is on the line manager doing something whereas ‘I want to feel able to have a conversation with my line manager about how I feel’ is 100% achievable because you have the control. You can make this happen.
‘I want everyone to be as engaged as I am’. The focus here is on everyone else whereas ‘I want to be able to sustain my own engagement levels despite how everyone else feels’ is certainly achievable because you are in control of it. If you want it, you’ll work at getting it.
When an outcome is not self-maintained you will not achieve it. This can lead to feelings of frustration and disengagement.
Often the reason that people struggle to ensure an outcome is self-maintained is because they don’t really want to take responsibility to achieve it.
2. Stated positively – ‘Towards’
To achieve an outcome it must be compelling. If you’re not moving towards something you want, and if you can’t imagine what that something will look like, or feel like, when you achieve it, how can it be compelling and motivating enough to achieve?
This is where positively stating an outcome; ‘towards’ instead of ‘away from’ is key.
For example – ‘I’m looking for a new job because I don’t believe that I’m trusted to do a good job where I am now’ is an ‘away from’ statement; moving away from something that I don’t want. ‘I want a new job that gives me opportunities to grow and develop’ is a ‘towards’ statement. It’s a positive statement about what your ultimate outcome is.
‘Towards’ statements keep you focused on what you do want instead of simply reminding you of what you don’t want.
3. From a place of possibility – ‘I WANT to’
Let’s look at language. Are you speaking from a place of necessity or possibility?
‘Need to, must, should, have to’, these words come from a place of necessity whereas ‘want to’ comes from a place of possibility.
An example of a necessity statement could be ‘I need to give my line manager some feedback’. Ask yourself what it would take for me to want to do it?
So, there you have our three key ingredients. Forming an outcome that is self-maintained, stated positively and comes from a place of possibility means that achieving success is highly likely!