The beautiful venue of Horsley Park Hotel was the location of two very exciting days this week. At the end of the workshop we all chose a card to describe our feelings after a fun and extremely powerful two days of learning. I chose a picture of a ladder because I feel like I climbed a rung in terms of my own personal development and learning.
We have started to work with a process created by Kegan and Lahey called ‘Immunity to Change’, which helps you to think about what your ‘one big thing’ is. This should be something that if you could achieve it would really make a difference and add value to your life. It was reassuring to find that during discussion the Senior Managers we were working with all talked about issues such as needing to be liked, wanting more confidence and having a fear of rejection. General assumptions might suggest that the higher up you get in corporate the less personal needs you should have, or certainly express. However the truth is, it doesn’t matter how high up you get, there will be some unexamined needs and beliefs driving things you do that prevent you from achieving your ‘one big thing’. This systematic approach guides you through how to identify and adjust assumptions that might be holding you back. I really loved working with ‘Immunity to Change’, for me it brought everything together and with every stage of the process it made more sense and more elements of ‘me’ became involved.
Doing it myself I realised some needs that I have, that I hadn’t previously identified. The process encourages self-inquiry and self-exploration and by doing so, I had some very insightful moments and I’m excited to see the progress and development I can make with my discoveries.
As with anything you want to achieve you have to have desire to do it; it has to mean enough to you to stand by your plan, see the process through and want to change. To really be able to work on something you should ask yourself the following: Do you truly want to achieve it? Is it self-maintained? (i.e. are you in control of the potential outcome?) Will it add value? Will it enhance your performance? Is it a true desire as apposed to a ‘should’? If the answer is yes to these questions your chance of success is great. Get rid of those limiting beliefs and focus on all your enabling ones!
What’s really nice for me, considering the fact that I had no real corporate experience before this internship, is that the work we do here and the environment we create lends itself for people to open and share as much or as little as willing. It’s not all about the job role, it’s about the person, who you are deep down regardless of whether you’re at home or work because despite popular belief we are not two different people; who we are in one situation will leak out in to the others.
It’s been a real privilege talking openly with highly regarded business men and women about things I can truly relate to; being human, learning, having fears, having needs and wanting to be better. I have a need for equality and that everyone deserves to feel that they can stand in front of anyone else regardless of age, position, accolades, fame and fortune, look them in the eyes and have a conversation. Because as a minimum, like I talked about in my last blog, we all connect at a very deep level of fighting to get our own needs met and nobody else’s needs are more important than anyone else’s.
Written by Maimee Morris – Intern.