In the month that focuses on male health and wellbeing, this Movember, we’re calling out the men.
The Rising Vibe strapline is ‘Feel Better. Do Better.’ We focus on emotions to make shifts. By changing the way we think, we can change the way we feel and therefore change the way we show up. When we feel better, we do better. We lead better. We manage better. We influence better. We sell better. We facilitate better. We communicate better. We’re a better mother, father, sibling, friend, husband or wife…
But it isn’t just about feeling positive. There’s way too much pressure on us to always be positive. To be driven. To be passionate. Of course that’s what we all want but with between 50 to 70 thousand thoughts per day, staying in what we call a ‘high vibe’ emotional state is pretty impossible. We all dip. Ironically, a low vibe combined with the pressure to be positive and motivated, can actually make us feel worse.
Unless we’re able to own and acknowledge how we’re really feeling and admit to where we’re really starting from in terms of our ‘low vibe’, we’re never going to move forwards. We get stuck.
So why are we calling out the men?
- We’re calling out the men to come forward and talk to us.
Talk to us about how you’re really feeling, where you might be stuck and why.
Both men and woman are hard wired for connection in the same way, so we all experience very similar emotions around the situations that come up in business. We feel the same but we don’t usually handle things in the same way. We’re calling out the men because men find it much harder to talk about how they’re really feeling.
- We’re calling out the men who are barriers to other men being honest about how they’re really feeling.
Those men who are not particularly kind or helpful to other men. Those that tell other men to ‘man up’ ‘grow some balls’, ‘sort yourself out…’ There is a time and a place for this, maybe if you’re about to go on stage at conference and nerves have got the better of you. In that moment, you may need this extra push. However, constantly saying to someone ‘get over it’, ‘pull yourself together’, ‘stop whinging…’ isn’t at all helpful.
- We’re calling out the woman to call out your men.
Lets support and challenge the men who surround us at home and at work every day.
So now for the big news! In January 2019 we’re launching our brother business (not sister company!) Calling Out The Men Ltd. In the process of getting this campaign together, we realised that this is so much more than just a campaign.
There is generally more awareness around men’s mental health and well-being, which is great, but what’s next? Yes it’s good to talk and there is no shame in admitting to feelings of fear, depression and anxiety. But what then?
This is where Calling Out The Men Ltd comes in.
I love a process and a framework and I understand that this kind of approach works particularly well with men. We want to help men with a practical approach to feeling better. Acknowledging there is a problem is the first step. Our mission then, is to create something for men that is accessible and solutions driven, which will tackle the issue of, ‘what next?’
In business, with regard to feelings and emotions, there is nothing just for men around feeling better and moving forwards. The support isn’t perfect for woman by a long way, but there is more out there. We seem to be missing something in the corporate world. There are men out there who are really struggling and we want to address this. We want to be known for men only corporate programmes, for men in business. Because when men as well as woman feel better, we all do better.
So please get involved. Anything that will help call out the men who need to come forward, call out the men who are not being supportive and call out the woman to call out their men.
Tell us your story at firstname.lastname@example.org.